Theory of Inevitability
Issue №26 in No Jam Today classic series (#34 within all issues)
The Theory of Inevitability. common(t) — relationship commonness; fresh(t) — relationship freshness; happy(t) — happiness in time; feel(t) — feelings in time (inevitability curve); love(t) — love in time; hate(t) — hate in time; k — dating frequency. fmax — turning point; i — indifference point; fr — break up point; dd — ...and died on the same day; ds — lonely death.
Is the inevitability curve caused by delta(love) stagnating into marginal increases only? I couldn't help observing that while love keeps growing even beyond the breakup point (and even beyond lonely death, which looks a tad pseudoscientific to me), it grows only very little beyond an undefined value of X between the turning point and the indifference point.
Then I noticed that the hate curve is almost symmetric to the love curve but has negative values. So is it when (anti-)hatred begins decreasing when love collapses? When does hatred become positive, i.e. true hatred?
I'm perplex now, I must admit.
Maju, the love curve represents the things we love about a person and the hate curve the things we hate. Love is always positive, hate is always negative, but our feelings are what combine it with relationship freshness and can be as a result positive or negative - which will represent love and hate, respectively, in a way we are used to seeing it.
The longer you know a person, the stronger your bonds become. You may find some new things you love about a person, or you may give greater value to the things you already know. Once you break up, you begin to miss these good sides even more, while your hate for the bad sides (which made you break up eventually) increases as well.
When you get acquainted with someone, you get most information about him/her in a short period of time. Once the pace at which you get new information goes down, relationship freshness gets into way and steadily moves your feelings from hot passion to warm love.
Both death points are hypothetical and can move back and forth. They may or may not take place.